HOPE: What is your Vision for 2013?

As 2012 is closing and 2013 is in the horizon and shining light of hope for the future; are you spending time in reflection?

I have heard too often the past 3 weeks from clients, friends, family, and acquaintances:

Confused, Lost Focus, Overwhelmed, Too Much To Do, Everyone Wants/Needs a "Piece" of Me. If you can identify with any of these statements; there is HOPE to finish out the year in harmony, focus, purpose, passion, and a plan for 2013.

By creating a Vision Statement it helps guide change in our life and protective boundaries from outside influences that challenge who we are, believe, and purpose.

 

"While we cannot control or dictate the behavior of others, a vision statement about how we wish to conduct ourselves, and the "tone of being" thta we desire to maintain, will definitely become a sifting and filtering device, a necessary protective boundary, and a magnet for others." (L.B.Jones)

How to start creating your own 

Vision and Mission of HOPE:

  

Example: If I make money, I want to be thriving

               Change to:  I am thriving and giving to my community

   Example: I want to say "yes" to the people and events that mean something to me

              Change to:  I say "yes" to ______

  Example: I have paying clients

             Change to: My clients pay me well and delight in and cherish me...

 

We don't know what the future holds.

We only know it's starting now.

Looking forward brings hope.

Be optimistic: Vision the future of how you want it to be and not how it is.

 

Want to create your vision and mission statement?  Contact me for FREE 30 minute coaching session to create your VISION!

 

Cheers to the future,

Tracy Worley

Source: L.B. Jones. (1996). The Path.
Source: P. LIndsay. (2009). Now Is The Time.
Source: T.Worley. (2012). Authentic Self.
©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved

VISION OF GRACE: Stuck In A Snowbank

I love December as it is always a time of reflection, planning, and visions of the future.

Friday December 7th I spent time on a call with my team and mentor Paul Martinelli. While waiting in the queue I write a list of praises, wins, shout-outs, and questions. I like to be direct and down to business so we all have an opportunity to share and ask questions during our time together.

 

When queued to the call a bit of introduction and then I stated "Well you know how I am, right down to business", Paul then stalled my list to get me off of the "right down to business" track and into a personal one. Paul asked about my family, holiday plans, traditions, what our holidays will look like 5 years from now.  

 

• First, Iam thrown off track because these questions are not on my ‘list’.
• Secondly, These are personal questions and usually people do not ask me personal questions.
• Thirdly, I am the one who asks other people about themselves…why can I not quickly vision and answer the questions?

I was STUCK, unable to be flexible in thought and/or share family traditions and what our family will be doing and look like 5 years from now? I knew this needed some deep reflection and correction.

 

Saturday Tim and I went XC skiing which is one of our favorite things to do. The conditions were great with a gray, sunny, snowflake lit sky (yes, there such phenomenon of gray and sunny sky at the same time).  This is always a great time for deep reflection with the fresh air, beauty of God all around, and endorphin kick helps too. So my reflection was of the conversation with Paul the previous day. 

 

Mantra While Skiing:

TT get real and visions the abundance of your life!

Vision it, live it, start breathing it.

 

Times in life when I injury myself spiritually or physically is when I am playing it too safe or reckless (without knowledge). This day I reminded myself of playing it too safe while skiing. There was a dip/hazard in the trail and to tackle this hazard is to hop-skip across with your skis on (basically invovles balance of core, legs, and skis).

 

Vision of Grace: Distracted by my mantra I slowed down and played the hazard safe by slowly sliding down the slipe, the tips of  my skis went straight into the opposit slope and NOW I WAS STUCK! Face down, arms sprawled, the back of my skis and my bum bum are straight up in the air. I played it safe, by not visioning the abundance of success over the hazard = stuck!

 

Lesson: Remember when moving forward do so with intention, momentum, vision, grace, and humility.

Keep Your Tips Up,

Tracy Worley

P.S. I have my vision of family, traditions, and how many Hello Kitty Band-Aids needed for bruised knees and stubbed toes.

SNOWFLAKES AND WINKS

 It is amazing when awareness brings us full circle. Recently my friend Kelly Stengem  and I got together for a wonderful cup of coffee, sunshine, sharing life stories, collaborating, and nurturing a new friendship. Kelly taught me the phrase "God Winks", which means when we are aware of the blessings, abundance, and success set before us, is when God Winks at us.  

I have been re-reading a book this past week by Laurie Beth Jones. Laurie shares her relationship with Jesus and from a young age she asked when He is close and thinking of her to send a lady bug (God Wink).

This is a wow moment for me, as we are all longing for a deep relationship. I cannot think of a better way to know he is Thinking of Me, Is With Me, and Loves Me to ask God to send a Wink. 

In deep reflection from the awareness of my conversation with Kelly, personal journal, and rereading Laurie's book, my prayer and personal note I asked for is a snowflake. Some of you may ask how can God send you a snowflake when it is July or when you are speaking in the welcomed heat of the dessert.

 

I believe and have faith with God anything is possible, so if it is a single snowflake in the heat of summer or other possibilities to show me he is thinking of me, is with me, and loves me. Within one week God has given me several snowflakes and one in particular came from my dear friend Stacy Jennings. 

 

Stacy came by my office and on her hand is a snowflake ring. I giggled, and told her I love her ring. Stacy told me she had just acquired it from a cupcake top for a co-workers party. I proceeded to tell Stacy about my journey and how a snowflake is my God wink. When we are aware of gifts, abundance, and miracles they really do happen even through us. Sharing this story with Stacy also set her back onto a path of awareness of the miracles she sees and experiences everyday. 

 

A few of my God Winks this week:

•  SNOW FLAKE BOOK COVER
• STACY JENNINGS RING
• LIGHT SPRINKLING OF FLAKES WHILE WORKING THROUGH A CHALLENGE
• PRIVATE NOTE FROM A FRIEND (WHO HAS NO IDEA ABOUT MY WINK)
   

WHAT IS YOUR GOD WINK?

 

 

 

MBN Empowerment Luncheon

~ Meet my new friend ~
Kelly Stengem and Tracy Worley
 

Thank You to all who attended the MBN Empowerment Luncheon today!


 

 

Cheering You All On
Red Shoe Courage Style!

What wonderful stories you all brought and I hope you left with a few tools to add to your success took-kit! Here are a few bullet-points of current and past self-limiting beliefs, barriers, transition challenges you brought to the table today.

•  Creating new independence
• Transitioning into new career; working for self is scary
• Putting myself out there and meeting new people
• Undeserving of success
• I can do this?
• Am I good enough to do this?
• Sole supporter of household; launching new side of business
• Exercise and Nutrition; continue to be healthy
• Taking care of everything and everyone first (leave myself behind)
• Looking for a job
• Purge my boys things (they are grown and out of the house)
• Doubt myself
• Balance (love of work, and limiting it to not over-take my life)
• Wonder woman? Where are you?

Would love to hear what your tree top is going to look like today and the future possibilities. . . are we drawing ourselves into limited growth or are we leaving the top of the tree off to reach our potential?

Life Lesson #151 - Choose Your Attitude

Jill - Who is also a member of
SelkirkCTG Admin Staff

Life Lesson #151: Choose Your Attitude

How One Incident Can Change Your Day

 

It amazes me how one incident can make or break our day. If we are not intentional in 'attitude' the effect to our day and also to the others around us.

One morning this week started out the same. Me walking into the kitchen with my eyes closed and arms out in front like a zombie. . . looking for coffee. Coffee poured in a favorite SNOOPY mug and snuggled into the couch listening to the news. I set SNOOPY on the side table to adjust a lap blanket and invited Jill up for a snuggle, the beloved SNOOPY mug toppled over, broke, and the golden warm coffee all over the hardwood floor! Without thinking and eyes still closed,  I am sure.  The mess cleaned up, new cup poured, and a snuggle with Jill ensued.

 

Why is this a shared story? Well, my husband witnessed this on his way out the door this morning and I received a text from him "Hope you are having a good morning, TT" My thought; why wouldn't I be having a good morning?

Breaking beloved SNOOPY, coffee on the floor could have set the tone of the day. Perhaps setting the tone to be a Naughty Nelly kind of a day. I chose to move forward, not cry, yell, or scream....just moved forward with grace, patience, and SNOOPY as beloved as he was does not have control over my day .

 

I am living in such purpose of positive attitude, I was not aware my morning could have been any different. I wish this for you too! Below is the main tool, and focus I used and still use to create this environment in my personal and professional life.

• Start a Journal:
• Write down intention of the day; how do I want to interact and treat others today. When we focus on the Golden Rule, it changes our focus and becomes a habit not only how we treat others but our self and self-talk too!
• Is there a situation I could have reacted differently?
• Is there an opportunity to reach out, reflect, and or change?
• Is a spilled cup of coffee a reason to spend a lot of 'energy' on?
• A positive attitude is a magnet for others to be positive and more fun to be around too! This is where I take inventory of friends, acquaintances, and family. . . who is in our inner circle who is positive or an attitude drain?

With the above practice I am able to live in a place of authenticity and positive attitude. This also gives me personal and professional tools when in a difficult conversation and ask "Is this a conversation we need or should have?" "Is this conversation necessary and/or un-healthy?" If I answer yes to either of these questions, I curtail the conversation. By restate the situation in a more positive light or change the conversation to a more productive and healthy avenue.

Sincerely Attitude,
Tracy Worley

Would love to know what is in your tool box to ensure a positive attitude and outlook?

Source: T.Worley. (2012). Authentic Self.
©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved

STOP, PAUSE, GROW!



Fall Flower Garden; Missoula, MT
Beauty can only be seen and felt if we stop, pause, and SEE.

Stopping, pausing, and reflection allows us to GROW! 

To plan, be more productive, and successful we must have time in our daily schedule to stop, pause, and GROW!

 

Our lives move through the speed of light these days, or at least that is what it feels like when we wake and put our heads on the pillow at night. I have had a tremendous year of growth and know if I were not intentional and disciplined in reflection the lessons learned would have taken longer or lost. 

 

The last two weeks as I teach John's 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth adds more tenacity to discipline there is time in my daily agenda for time of reflection. In pause and reflection these past two weeks brings to thought Albert Schweitzer. Albert Schweitzer had many adventures in Africa. This particular story reminds me of the human need for our body and soul to stop, pause, and reflect to nourish our body and soul learning from our experiences.

A trip through Africa many people are involved in moving supplies. The line of supply came to a halt and Albert wanted to know why there is a delay. The response "The natives are pushing so hard they have to wait for their souls to catch-up".
 

Reflection of this statement and a challenge for you and I; Are we waiting in reflection and allowing our souls to catch-up to us? 

Reflection:

·         Create a space/place where you can consistently and effectively pause and reflect.
·         Schedule time to stop, pause, and reflect (10 to 30 minutes).
·         Ask yourself questions, where do you need to grow, manage, challenge, relationships, etc…

 

Challenge: Are you allowing your soul to catch up to you for growth?

Source: T.Worley. (2012). Authentic Self.
Source: J.Maxwell. (2012). 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth.

©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved

15 Invaluable Laws of Growth - Special Invitation

Hello Business Builder and Growth Igniter!   The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth Starting October 2nd, 2012 A live call with John Maxwell   Please join my friend and mentor John Maxwell and myself for a special teaching and Mastermind group.   I encourage you to share and forward this special invitation to individuals and groups you think would benefit from personal and professional growth.

Through my personal connection with John we are able to offer the live training before anyone else in the world. John and I will also be offering guests on this October 2nd call special gifts and benefits toward your professional and personal growth.   This is an invitation for personal and professional growth, and an opportunity to learn from John Maxwell and one of his Founding Partners, Tracy Worley.   We are forming Mastermind groups around John Maxwell's new book coming out October 2nd, 2012, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth.   The first session will be taught by John!   Don't miss this great opportunity to hear John Maxwell live and take your personal and professional growth to a whole new level! This Mastermind is FREE!     Join us on Tuesday, October 2, 2012, for a live call with John as he teaches from the first chapter of his newest book: The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth.   My friend and mentor John MaxwelI and I look forward to growing alongside you, Tracy Worley   Register Here

This book is about tried and true principles that are certain to help a person grow as John has learned over his life. John is a recongized as the legacy builder in the field of leadership. This will be a six week group, 1 hour per week where we will learn and discuss the Laws of Growth, Including: Law of Awareness: You must know yourself to grow Law of Contribution: Developing yourself enables you to develop others Law of the Mirror: You must see value in yourself to add value to yourself

AUTHENTIC SELF - Courage to Possess Perfection

MBN Bitterroot Subnetwork - September 2012

Collaborating with Jennifer Rivera on a subject to kick off Missoula Businesswomen's Network first sub-network meeting of the year; and to add value to DeDe Adams message for MBN this year "....inspiring others to Blossom!" 

 Jennifer and I were experiencing the same opportunity of non-authentic people in our business and personal lives. Definition of 'authentic: individuals hold the same values and beliefs from a business meeting, networking opportunity, school, and family functions.

 

From our collaboration came the four laws of Authentic Self: Law of Character, Law of the Lid, Law of Perfection, and Law of Celebration

 

Law of Character

 

Authentic self is our self-image and character

 

Core of our character is our values, beliefs, experiences, and set points

Best way to start developing core values is the Golden Rule, start listing the values and beliefs you hold true of others. 

 

Be humble in grace and pray for others, send cheer even if they are adversarial. Love

your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those

who mistreat you. . . do  to others as you would have them do to you.

(Luke 6:27-31 The Golden Rule)

  

Devote time and energy to discover our passion, talent, and value; we will step
into authentic self; destiny.

 

Passion + Talent+ Values + Destiny = Genius

 

Genius is living in our passion, purpose, talent, gifts, and character. This is where
we walk into a room and people state; "you look great what have you been doing?"

Live our PURPOSE. . . Being JOYFUL daily

 

  Law of the Lid

 

Definition:   Limitation of achieving higher than we can today. A lid inhibits our ability to be more tomorrow than we are today. Self

limiting beliefs put a ceiling on our lives.

·         We do not see things as they are; we see things as we are.

·         See life full; through faith provision will be fruitful

·         How we see our self = attitude

 

“No matter what happens to you, positive attitude comes from within.

Your circumstances and your contentment are unrelated.”  J. Maxwell   

 

Law of Perfection

 

 

Belief, Dream, Passion, Growth

Law of perfection is the perfection of who we are as individuals. To live within our character we should live within our gifts. As human beings we are physically and mentally in-capable of being perfect at every single thing our world has to offer.

 

We are PERFECT in who we are and living within our genius.

Experience gives us opportunity to plant seeds of change; to encourage, nurture new beginnings, and the courage to do so.Through grace and humility we can find ‘perfection’ of our purpose, desire(s), passion(s), dream(s) and value.

 It is what I want!

There is no longer a belief that I can’t.

It is what I want!

 

 Law of Celebration

 

 If you love it, you are NOT willing to lose it

As a society we do not take time out of our daily lives to celebrate even the smallest of events and wait for the bigger events in our lives to celebrate. . . why? When we celebrate daily wins, and losses it keeps focus on our goals, dreams, and core values.

• Celebrate making the 5 cold-calls today
• Celebrate the 2 hang-ups.....why? Because you can now devote energy to potential clients who are open and willing to receive what you have to offer
• Celebrate a return call
• Celebrate big and small, this also mentors our employees and youth the wins are wonderful and the losses are great learning opportunities we did not have to pay for :)
• Celebrating ignites others to success

 

Sincerely,

Tracy Worley

 

 

Would love to know what you are celebrating!

 

Source: J. Maxwell. (2007). 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership

Source: T.Worley. (2012). From Grace to Red Shoe Courage.

©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved



LEAD BY CHOICE

As leaders we must choose to move forward and navigate without limiting beliefs.

We have heard said if you want something you have never had, you have to do something you've never done. If we are in a state of leading with blinders we will continually produce the same results. Meaning if we do not see greater abundance, we cannot produce or receive greater abundance. In this state we produce only what we believe in, and what we 'have always done', limiting our ability to give and receive greater abundance.

Limiting beliefs are ideas we have accepted as truths. When we look at life through a child's perspective, limiting beliefs are not there. Children are naturally curious and enthusiastic. They look at life as a big dream, imagination surrounds them. As we grow older some of us lose enthusiasm for life and become discouraged.



We must remember no matter what disappointments or difficulties we experience do not let let them sideline our passion and self belief. Every state of life presents obstacles, trials, triumphs, and failure.



My friend and mentor Ed Decosta tells a great story. Ed and his family were on a beach during spring break and  observed two brothers conversation as one is talking about self-belief and accepted truth to each other.
         

          Brother One: Come on! The waves are awesome!
          Brother Two:  But I might get hurt.
          Brother One: Ya, but you won't die!!!!!
          Brother Two: O.K. then.

The two brothers then ran to the water, playing in awesome waves for the rest of the day. 


Why this story? We observe childlike curiosity and enthusiastic attitude that everything is going to be alright no matter what happens. When we do not choose to move forward we choose to die. As leaders when we choose to not move forward or 'change' our organizations die .

In the conversation of the two brothers can you identify the 'accepted truth', of limiting belief? What 'accepted truth' have you personally identified?

Lead by Choice,
Tracy Worley

Ed Decosta & Tracy Worley

 

Source: T.Worley. (2012). From Grace to Red Shoe Courage.

©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved

FORGIVE AND LEAD

To be a leader we must forgive others quickly, freely, and without asking for anything else in return.

 

In a Mastermind discussion this morning the question arose, "What are some tools you all use to move past anger, resentment of other peoples arrogance, greed etc...How do you all move-on?" 

WOW, what a powerful question and one most of us ask on a regular basis in the same form stated above or in another form.

The strongest tool and the one guaranteed to move us past intolerance, ignorance, and the greed of others is FORGIVENESS. We all know it is hard to forgive others who have wronged us or others, but to forgive releases us from the negative energy attached to other peoples actions, in-actions, and words.

To forgive others we must learn to forgive ourselves first. Why? Because if we are not kind and gentle to ourselves we will lack empathy, kindness, compassion, and care for others.

Melodrama is found in one or our oldest books the Bible. Forgiveness is at almost every turn throughout history. This stuff might happen in the Bible, but certainly not in the hard-nosed modern world of business. But think again. Forgiveness and compassion are powerful, boundless forces, and they belong in the world of business as much as they do in familial relationships whether biblical or modern.      (L.Woolfe)

 

Five Forgive and Lead Tools

1. Forgive self and others
2. Fail forward
3. Practice the Golden Rule
4. Set aside time for self-reflection
5. Move to I Statements; I feel hurt when.... I feel frustrated when....

What are your Forgive and Lead Tools?

With Care,
Tracy Worley

 

Source: L.Woolfe. (2002). Leadership Secrets From The Bible, p.62.

©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved

Humble Leader

Lead With Humility

   Humble Upon a Mountain   
  

Spring 2012 - North Idaho
Jill - Tim - Tracy - Kimber

      Clients often ask me what is the number one characteristic of a leader . . . my immediate answer is humility.

 

               My husband and I love the outdoors. One of our favorite activities is to hike peaks, glaciers, or somewhere unknown. Hiking 4,000 vertical in elevation within three miles is a humbling test of leading ourselves mentally and physically.  Hiking vertical elevations is physically taxing but when doubt, fear, and confidence play on our mind asking to NOT go any further this is a true test of humility.

 

Taking from John Maxwell's 21 Irrefutable Laws of a Leader, the Law of Navigation is a law I come to often when hiking.  Any personal goal or team worth coaching deserves a well navigated vision, path, and continued passion to enjoy the journey to the destination.

 

 Being humble builds our character and character is the one thing in life to protect at all costs. Persisting in personal greatness, keeping our commitments, and our actions are consistent with what we say. There is nothing more humbling than navigating a course and consistently leading yourself and others through adversity, change, culture, and intangibles.

 

What is the reward of 4,000 vertical? The view! Plus satisfaction physical and mental barriers are conquered . . . we can conquer anything we put our minds, passion, and effort to.

What is your ‘humble mountain’?

Humbly yours,

Tracy Worley

“Major barriers to successful planning are fear of change, ignorance, uncertainty about the future, and lack of imagination.” John Maxwell

©2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved

Heart of a Leader

My Husbands Socks
          Heart of a Leader

    

             Not sure about you but my husband’s socks or anyone else’s would not be the most romantic thing I would have in mind for comfort. Socks are not part of my daily wardrobe as this last Sunday I had kicked my shoes off during service, and then proceeded to the front of the sanctuary to take communion barefoot.

    However, I find when my tootsies are cold and my husband is not at hand to snuggle my toes next to for warmth, I pull socks from his drawer and slowly slip them on. As I slip them on a smile slowly grows onto my lips and there is a slow warming of my heart. My several pairs of slippers and custom fleece socks just do not compare.

     Why his socks? I have found two pairs that bring a smile and warmth to my heart quickly and have made their way to my sock drawer. I can tell you Tim’s heart of a leader is where the comfort comes from. From my cool tootsies the heart of his leadership wraps warmth around my mind, body and spirit. 

               Here are a few identifiers of a heart of a leader:

•  Positive 
•  Encourager     
•  Responsive to others needs
• Offers praise even when we fail
• Perfection is not as important than trying and failing

What are your identifers for a heart of a leader?

From His Drawer to Mine,

Tracy Worley

© 2012, Tracy Worley (Selkirk Coaching and Training Group). All rights reserved.